Are you forming good or bad habits?

Are you forming good or bad habits?

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How many times have we said, “There’s nothing wrong with making a mistake.” Although this is true; the problem is when we falsely identify our habits as a mistake.  

  • A mistake is when you unintentionally say or do something that is wrong.
  • A habit is when you repeatedly think and/or perform the same behavior and/or action whereby it becomes your way of life. In other words, this habit becomes a law that guides your life.

Let’s take some time to dig into the difference between a habit and a mistake. I had taken my focus off of God and His word and allowed my emotions to take the lead. My quest to fix my situation instead of going to God’s word first is why I made the majority of my mistakes.

I allowed my misguided thoughts to morph into a nasty habit of ungratefulness and impatience. It was literally affecting other aspects of my life. I started singling out many areas of my life that I felt like God had neglected in helping me. I chose to play the role of a victim. I truly believed that God wanted everyone but me to win at life.  

“God why do I have to work with these people?

God, I wish I had enough money to travel like they do.

Why is my life so boring?

I was constantly comparing myself to other people because I felt like God had forgotten about me. My mistaken belief led me down a horrible path to dismiss the blessings that God had already given me.    

Sadly, it wasn’t until God started taking away these blessings that I realized how much I had taken for granted in my life.  Looking back on the situation I can see how hard God tried to get my attention. We can’t expect God to continue blessing us if He sees that we’re not going to appreciate it. If we’re honest about it, we would just trample on it like the swine in Matt 7:6. Sometimes, you really don’t know what you have until it’s gone.

The irony is when God starts to chasten us by taking away blessings we get further discouraged and upset with God. However, my habit of not working hard enough to identify my misconstrued thoughts are what helped me create a habit of ungratefulness and impatience in my life.  

The good news is that you have the power to break this vicious cycle. You need to acknowledge your behavior, ask God for forgiveness and change your ways.

You can’t fix a problem if you’re not willing to admit that you have one. Regardless of how much it hurts, you have to address it head on because letting it linger only harms you.  

Had I not corrected my misguided thinking I would have been setting myself up to make an even bigger mistake by going outside of God’s timing.

It’s important to apologize for your behavior because it demonstrates that you’re taking ownership of your actions. As much as you may want to skip over this step, you can’t  if you’re truly sorry.

Apologizing is a very humbling experience and serves as a reminder that you’re not perfect. It’s your opportunity to demonstrate that you are remorseful for your behavior (1 John 1:9). Once you have done the first two steps, you need to demonstrate how serious you are about changing your life by withstanding any consequences that may come as a result of your behavior.

According to James 1:22 actions speak louder than words. Let’s say you stole my car. You can say you’re sorry all day long, but if you have made no effort to give me back my car then you’re not sorry. Your actions have to support and demonstrate your endeavor to change your way of life.

If you feel like your life is heading down the wrong path, take a moment to evaluate your decisions. You will be amazed at how quickly your life will improve the moment you’re able to decipher the difference between good and bad habits.

Focus on You

FOCUS ON YOU HUSTLE IN FAITH

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Have you ever been online and saw a photo that made you wish you could switch places with that person? Be honest. Everyone at some point in time has felt this way. I used to feel like this all the time whenever I look at photos of travel bloggers.

However, as soon as I felt that green eyed monster attempting to dampen my mood, I would think back to my mother’s warnings. Oftentimes, we’re not willing to undergo the ordeal that this person went through to get that (i.e. insert object, situation, etc.) that you wish to obtain.

There’s nothing wrong with gathering information to get inspiration to achieve your goals. The key is to have a balance. You must have a balance when viewing the work of others. In doing so, you will take the good and leave the bad. This state of mind will help us to remember that God  created you to be an original–not an imitation. We are all unique beings. God wants us to create our own path to success. True success can only be achieved when you let Him lead you. The only way you can achieve this goal is by doing the following:

1.) Make a conscientious effort to cleanse your soul. 

Below are my favorite Christian books. They helped me realize that I needed to completely overhaul changing my mindset. I learned when you are changing your mindset, you don’t have time to look at other people. You’re too busy working on a never ending project…yourself. Cleansing your soul is something that you will have to battle on a continuous basis.

 

2.) Keep a checklist.

You can’t see how far you have come if you don’t have a benchmark. I created a spiritual checklist that I use everyday to track my progress. It helps me to easily identify areas where I need to improve.

For example, you may have a problem with being patient. If you don’t fix this issue, it will manifest in other areas of your life, such as your finances, your health, etc. Being impatient, causes you not to see the value in waiting on God. Thus, leading you to get involved in a get rich quick scheme. Impatience can also have a detrimental impact on your health. Instead of losing weight the natural way (i.e. changing your diet and exercise),  you may decide to have an unnecessary risky surgery.

Certain emotions can lead you down a destructive path. You must use a checklist to keep you from going down the wrong path. This checklist combined with a disciplined routine and my grateful notes makes sure that I’m not taking God’s love for granted.

3.) Limit your time on social media and watching TV.

Have you ever been feeling really good then you go online to “see what everyone else is up to” only to leave feeling sad, angry, or a variety of other negative emotions? Satan was setting you up fora pity party.

Oftentimes, these mediums can be used as a “trigger” (objects, situations, people, etc.) that will bring you down. Don’t put yourself in a situation where you will be tempted to revert backing to your old ways.

4.) Exercise.

You would be amazed at how much clarity you will receive when you exercise! Not only will you feel better about yourself, but you’re going to look and feel different about your appearance as well.

5.) Keep a journal.

You don’t have to start a blog, but it is important to write down your daily experiences. This will help you easily identify “triggers” that cause you to experience negative emotions. God cannot operate within an environment that is filled with negativity (Matt 13:58). He can only help you if you believe that He can do so.

6.) Be prepared to lose some folks along the way.

When you decided to improve your life, please realize that you won’t see a lot of your “friends” rooting for you. These people were never really your friends in the first place. They were there for their own selfish reasons.

Your decision to improve your way of life exposes their hypocrisy. We have enough obstacles to overcome as is is so there’s no need to allow someone to go around setting up unnecessary ones.It may be hard, but it you don’t cut these people out of your life, you won’t have enough space for those who were meant to be there. Remember, you can’t take everyone with you on your journey. The quicker you identify the folks you need to leave behind will reduce the time it takes for you to arrive to your destination—success.

There’s a lot of good that can come from focusing on you. Are you willing to invest in yourself and put forth the effort to gain the blessings God has in store for you?

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How to Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy

How to Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy

Be honest. Have you abandoned your New Year’s resolutions to launch your business? No need to feel ashamed. In fact, according to numerous studies, most people abandon their New Year’s resolution within a month. Now there are a variety of reasons why this happens, but I believe the main forces driving this statistic can be attributed to fear, patience, and consistency.

The good news is that even though you got off to a rocky start, it’s how you finish that truly matters. I don’t want your dreams of launching your business to end up on the sidelines.  It’s time to get to work on how we can go about resurrecting your goals so you to make it to the finish line in style.

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What film is playing on your screen?

What Film Is Playing on Your Screen

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Your imagination is your preview to life’s coming attractions.

I immediately fell in love with this quote because it reaffirms what has been instilled in me since childhood—you are what you think. As a child, we have all had dreams of what we wanted to be when we grew up. However, somewhere along the way many lose that zeal and drive we once had to pursue those dreams and turn them into reality. Why?

As we grow older, we allow outside influences (i.e. family members, circumstances, etc.) to persuade us into believing that perhaps our dreams were not meant to be achieved. This could not be further from the truth! You have the power to change the channel if you are not enjoying the current attraction.

Too many fail to do so because we allow our previews to be dominated by the following emotions:

Fear is a distasteful emotion that destroys dreams. A single fear can easily control us as well as create a domino effect of frustration, stress, worry, and discouragement—all of which will keep us from seeking and fulfilling our dream. On the flip side, some fear success because they are afraid of not being able to retain what they have gained. In order to prevent apprehension from stealing your dream, you must admit to your fears. There is no shame in admitting you are afraid. To conquer fear we must acknowledge its presence, identify the cause and begin the process of defeating fear before it mutates into frustration.

In order to prevent apprehension from stealing your dream, you must admit to your fears. There is no shame in admitting you are afraid. To conquer fear we must acknowledge its presence, identify the cause and begin the process of defeating fear before it mutates into frustration.

You can finish reading the rest of this post which was originally posts on Starengu.com.

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How to watch what you say

HOW TO WATCH WHAT YOU SAY HUSTLE IN FAITH

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Many of us don’t know or fail to realize our words have power (Pro 18:21). If we use our words to blame God for our situation that means we don’t have faith that He can or will help us resolve our circumstance. Our faith is what makes our words powerful. Our circumstances may appear bleak, but we can’t let our circumstances dictate our response (2 Cor 5:7). If we don’t watch what we say then we will “limit” God’s ability to help us (Mark 6: 5-6).

When I sat back and thought about some of the “storms” I experienced last year, I was able to identify that I was the problem. I could clearly see that some of those storms came ashore because I failed to speak life. I literally spoke my fears into existence. Why should God help me if I think my circumstances are too big for Him to handle?

If you don’t want your words to hinder you from receiving God’s help then it’s important to do the following:

1. Calm down (count to 10)

Life doesn’t always go according to plan. This is a difficult concept to explain to children, but it shouldn’t be when you’re an adult. I get that anger may be your first reaction (trust me, I’ve been there myself), but if you’re trying to watch what you say, then do what you have to do to calm down.

I have literally been teaching myself to count ten before I say anything. I don’t want to make things even harder for myself by speaking death. I only want to manifest life.

2.Pray

Whenever you encounter a difficult situation, the first thing you need to do is pray. When you attempt to rely on your own resources you are going to be sorely disappointed. Our power is limited, but God’s is infinite. However, you can only access it with prayer.

Prayer changes everything. I don’t believe in coincidences or being lucky. There have been several instances in my life (especially last year) where I KNOW that it was definitely Him that brought me through that situation. Prayer is what keeps me blessed.

3.Let it go

Yet, this is exactly what God wants us to do. If you have done all that you can do, then God commands us not to worry (Matt 6:25-34). The struggle is REAL when it comes to not worrying about the situation. If it’s a particular dark situation you want to get it resolved ASAP. Asking God for help doesn’t make sense if you still have a desire to “carry your burden.” Matt 11: 28-30

Learning how to let go is going to teach you how to be patient. It will also indicate to God that you trust Him Heb 11:6

4.Get some rest

Whenever I encounter a difficult situation, it causes me to feel anxious, scared, impatient, etc.

On several occasions there have been times that I have stayed up trying to figure out how to resolve a problem. The irony is somehow in my attempt to resolve the problem, I end up having even more questions than answers.

As I’ve gotten older, I’m able to identify that this type of behavior means that I need to sleep. When you’re going through a rough time, your sleep quality tends to deteriorate because you have a lot on your mind. However, that’s also the problem. In the Bible, Elijah was having major problems with Ahab and Jezebel. He literally longed for death. (1 Kings 19: 5-7) Instead God gave him the opportunity to sleep and eat and he was as good as new. The last meal enabled him to travel 40 days and nights until he reached his destination.

Sometimes, when you’re tired you tend to make your problems larger than what they are. They may seem insurmountable, but that’s because you’re relying on your strength. Don’t forget that God has your back.

If you remember all of the above, you will be able to easily watch what you say. You will have no choice but to manifest life.

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