Work/Life Balance

EP. 150 When will you give yourself permission to pursue your dreams?

I don’t believe in coincidences. I believe that things happen for a reason. Lately, I’ve been having so many conversations with people about pursuing your dreams. This is a topic that I’m constantly talking to my mom about as well. I’m actively working towards my goals every day. I’m always in a situation where I’m helping other people identify and achieve their goals too. 

I recently had another conversation with two incredibly smart women (you know who you are) regarding the topic of pursuing your purpose in life and how to motivate employees to explore having a side hustle/side passion.

It was a really good conversation. One of the comments that resonated the most with me was the idea that so many people don’t pursue their dreams or think about having a side hustle or side passion project because they don’t think that their companies will support and/or allow them to pursue their endeavors.

This comment really shocked me. I would never in a million years wait or seek for someone, in this case, a company, to give me permission to pursue my dreams. It truly was interesting to me to learn that there are people who find themselves in this dilemma. 

I’m not wired that way. When it comes to achieving my dreams, I’m like Nike. I just do it.  I will always shoot my shot. I can’t stress enough how important it is for you to invest in yourself. Quite frankly, no one else is going to do it for you. 

So I asked myself, “Why would anyone whether it be intentional or unintentional seek permission to pursue their dreams?” I came up with four reasons. 


The reason why people feel the need to seek permission to pursue their dreams is fear. They don’t have that internal drive to motivate them or they don’t have that external drive of having someone in their corner to push them.

Click here to click for the conversation between my mom and I regarding this topic.

“I’m tired of not having enough,” is a statement that you would hear from someone who has internal drive. When you get sick of not having enough that internal fire inside of you is going to prompt you to want something more out of life. When you want more, you won’t feel compelled to seek permission because you’re tired of waiting. I’m going to get it myself. Then you go out there and start pursuing your dreams. 

If you lack an internal drive then you will need an external drive. Meaning, a loved one to push you outside your comfort zone. 

Some of the most ambitious people I know either came from a childhood where they didn’t have any money or they came from a childhood where they had someone to push them outside their comfort zone. Again, you’re either in a fight or flight mode or you have someone in your corner rooting for you. My drive would be considered external. I was blessed to have a very loving childhood. We weren’t poor, but we definitely weren’t rich; yet, all of our needs were met. 

If you want to take it one step further, even though we weren’t wealthy, we were blessed to have two loving parents who shared their knowledge with us. You can’t put a price tag on knowledge. My mom taught us about God and Jesus at a very early age and she was always putting us in extracurricular activities that she felt would develop the talents she identified in us.

Mom and me 🥰

The reason my mom did all of those things is due to the fact that she had a horrible childhood. She lived in the projects and swore to herself that her children would never go through what she went through as a child. She is an excellent example of having an internal drive. Her inner strength did not allow her pain and suffering to be in vain. My mom didn’t have any money, she didn’t have loving parents, she didn’t have a single soul in her life helping her, but she had that drive to have a good life. She knew that you had to have a balance in life. 

She wanted to work hard to get the things she desired in life. My mom channeled all of that negativity into something positive because she didn’t want us (my sister and I) to grow up the way she did. She broke the generational curse of living a mediocre life. My mom wanted us to be better than her. We were able to stand on her shoulders. I’m so grateful that my mom started developing me to have confidence in myself at an early age because it gave me the strength and preparation to endure the obstacles that I would later face as an adult.

Even when you have a “just enough lifestyle” as I did, you still need someone to push you outside of your comfort zone. My mom’s parenting style was very similar to that of an eagle. She made sure that when it was time that she would give us that much-needed push outside of the nest so we could fly on our own.


If you lack the internal or external drive to pursue your dreams you become complacent. You start to believe that your circumstances dictate the level of success you can achieve in life. This is simply not true.  This is why people who overcome adversity are oftentimes the happiest and most people in life because they earned their success the right way. They didn’t let life’s detours cause them to give up. They just kept going. I don’t care how long it takes for me to achieve my dreams, I will die happy knowing that at least I tried rather than leave this world with a warehouse of unfilled dreams. 

The pandemic has further heightened my aversion to complacency. My mom blessed me with the gift of discernment. This may sound harsh but it really doesn’t take me long to know whether I’m going to get along with someone. My number one pet peeve is people who complain. 

My mom taught us at an early age to be grateful. She would share stories about her childhood compared to ours. She taught us the value of money. When I was in high school, it fascinated me how many of my classmates were just given cars for turning 16. I knew for a fact that wasn’t happening to me. The main thing that I noticed was that many of them didn’t appreciate their car the way I did when I saved my hard-earned money and bought my own car. 

I treated my little Mercury cougar like it was a baby. Why? I paid for it myself. 

A couple of weeks ago, I was at a Burlington Coat Factory. For those of you not familiar with that store, it’s like TJMaxx. Anyway, it was a Saturday afternoon and when I went in line to pay for my stuff, I noticed that the line was crazy long. People were angry. They were complaining. 

Again, I hate when people complain. Either shut up and stay in line or just leave. It never ceases to amaze me that the people who complain about long lines are often the folks who never worked a day in retail in their lives. Trust me, the folks who work in retail have no desire to be there either. Who wants to put up with Karen/Kens all day long?! Not me!

I worked in retail all throughout high school and did a little bit of it again when I was laid off a couple of years ago.  Folks who work in retail and grocery stores will always have my patience. I’ve always believed that if everyone was forced to work in retail the lessons they learned in patience would teach them lessons in respect. 

Getting back to my story, I was going to wait in that line no matter what because I finally found the workout resistance bands I had been searching all over the place for. The line was moving at a snail’s pace and as I finally made my way closer to the counter I could see there were only two cashiers working at the counter. These two women were not only ringing up merchandise but they were also handling returns. It made my heart go out to them even more so. The folks in line were complaining over the fact that these two cashiers weren’t ringing people up fast enough when they should have been thanking them for even sticking around in the first place.

When it was finally my turn I made sure to thank the cashier. She was so grateful and then proceeded to tell me that everyone called off from work that weekend. She had literally been working since 6 am. Now mind you, it was like after 1 pm when I was at the store. This woman had been unboxing inventory and straightening up the store before it even opened and now she has to deal with these angry customers. Are you kidding me?! 

I couldn’t thank her enough and completed the survey at the bottom of the receipt. I wanted to make sure that she received the credit that she deserved. I left that store feeling angry because when I thought back to the folks who were in that line with me, they had a “corporate world vibe” and looked like they worked from home. 

This is why whenever I hear people or read stories about people complaining about working from home, it takes every fiber of my being not to roll my eyes or go off on that person. I wish they could have switched roles with those cashiers.  They would realize what an absolute blessing it is to work from home and not have to deal with miserable people like themselves who take their anger out on other people. Trust me, those essential workers, many in the corporate world claim to care so much about would gladly switch paychecks and places with you in a heartbeat. 

These are things that you don’t think about when things are constantly given to you. You lack empathy. You expect the world to revolve around you. When you finally realize that it doesn’t you don’t know what to do. You feel lost and start to complain. Now, this is going to sound even harsher, but complacency is contagious. The corporate world is filled with complacent people who wish to steal the joy they see in others who didn’t succumb to complacency.


When you allow yourself to become complacent, you don’t establish boundaries in your life. When you live a life without boundaries, you’re further jeopardizing your ability to accomplish your dreams. We all have the same 24 hours in a day, but how and who we choose to invest our time will vary. I have a very good work/life balance. The main reason why is because I keep those worlds completely separate. I learned early on in my career that not everyone who smiles in your face is your friend, and to do my best to develop multiple income streams.

Depending on where we meet and how comfortable I feel with you, will determine the level of how much I share. When I go to work, I’m there to work. I view my 9 to 5 as a job that funds my life but is definitely NOT my life. I think so much of the friction that occurs in the workplace is because people project what they want onto other people and get disappointed when that person doesn’t act the way that person “expected” them to. Again, we don’t have to be friends in order for me to get my job done. If a friendship naturally develops cool, but just let it happen. I know this may sound harsh, but I have enough friends. 

In order to achieve your goals, you have to protect your time. It’s one of the reasons why I’m fiercely protective of my schedule. I will not waste my time participating in activities or spend time with people who don’t add value to my life or will cause me to feel uncomfortable or stressed.  Listen, a happy hour is not going to change the fact that we have absolutely nothing in common. If anything I’m going to be irritated because I’ll be thinking of the time lost to working on one of my passion projects. 

I know some people may be like, “How do you know if you don’t go?” I’ve never done drugs and I know that’s not good for me either. It’s the exact same concept. Not everything in life has to be experienced. Some experiences can be avoided by learning from other people’s mistakes. Plus, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know if you have things in common with someone. 

Again, having clear boundaries with my work and personal life allows me to create a schedule that enables me to work on my side hustles. I make the most of my time. I’m even productive during my lunchtime! I either go for a walk to get in some exercise, I practice Spanish with my Spanish teacher online. My mom is taking Spanish classes too now, so I practice with her sometimes.

My Voice over studio 🥰
Thrilled I finally have my own home studio!!!🙌🏾🙋🏾‍♀️🥰

After work, you can find me consulting with other individuals teaching them how to create their own website, podcast, or marketing campaigns, doing voice-overs, or thinking of topics/lessons for my English classes. Again, I make the most of my time. Contrary to what some believe, I am human. 😂 So when I’ve made the mistake of sharing some of my extracurricular activities with those on the job, the complacent folks are quick to say things like, “Aren’t you doing too much?” Or some other comment that they feel comes across as concern when I really know it’s jealousy.

My schedule reminds them that they aren’t doing anything at all or not doing enough of the right things to make them happy. 


Since I’m good at establishing boundaries, I know that getting enough rest is an important role in pursuing your dreams. Now the rest I’m talking about is mental and physical. You can’t dream if you’re constantly tired. I’m a morning person.

I prepare myself for the day by reading something in the Bible that aligns with the emotions that I happen to be feeling at that point in time and then I go exercise. I either go for a run, a bike ride, work on the elliptical machine or do an Afrifitness video. I’m in even more of a position to do these things because I work from home. I don’t have to waste time commuting because everything I do is online.

Morning run: A sweaty hot mess, but I got in my 5K. 🙌🏾
I run a 5K at least 3 times a week.
Lunchtime: Went for a walk near the beach. Couldn’t pass up that amazing natural light. No makeup or filter on this photo. Just my oily skin and Afro puff. 😂

Anyway, everything I just described is even more important to do if you work in a toxic environment or with toxic people. Those suckers will drain your energy. When I was working at dead-end jobs, I made sure to go for walks during lunch so I could decompress. I didn’t want that negativity getting in my soul. I would meditate on God’s word and listen to uplifting podcasts during my lunch. That small break gave me the much-needed motivation to get me through the day. 

By the way, I would never tell anyone to quit their job. Those bills aren’t going to pay themselves. When you make time to put God first by strengthening your mental and physical health you are going to see things start to change. This is when you’re really going to start to identify or start tapping into all the other gifts that God’s given to you. We ALL have talents, but it’s up to us how long they lie dormant.

I know how important it is to rest. Another one of my favorite ways to rest is to teach dance fitness classes. I can’t wait to get back to teaching those again. You have to have an outlet that allows you to rest so you can dream. 

I taped this video last year (2020). I thought I was going to be teaching again at the gym again. The gym I worked at ended up laying off the group fitness instructors. 😢 I remember being dead tired taping this video (I had just finished working out with my mom), but it had been ages since I did this routine. I created the choreography for this song and wanted to see if I remembered it. 😀

If you find yourself feeling fearful or complacent, what are you doing to create boundaries to place yourself in a position to dream? It may be scary, but take the first step to address what it is that is holding you back from pursuing your goal. Believe me, the return on investment is worth the risk, so make time and use whatever resources you have at your disposal to bet on yourself.

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Episode 125: I’m Speaking.

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Episode 125: I’m Speaking.

Listen I’m not into politics. I’m going with the less of the evils because even though i’m left feeling uninspired by both candidates,  I’m definitely not going with the dude who is clearly a racist and is hell-bent intent on starting another Civil War. Clearly, Trump is not in my best interest… 

In Episode 122, my friend Chris shared that Germans are more afraid of Trump than the Coronavirus. Let that sink in…What’s even sadder is that I’m fairly confident that the majority of Black and Brown people feel the same way check out the episodes on the Hustle in Faith website under the category Random Thoughts/ Racism.

I’m not into politics so needless to say I haven’t felt compelled to watch any of the debates because I’m just so tired of hearing all the lies. However, I do try to have a balance because I know for a fact that my students overseas are going to have questions so I want to make sure I’m in a position to give them answers.

So I was able to catch some of the highlights (using air quotes). When I was in high school, I was captain of my speech team. Let me tell you they need to hire the high school teachers that moderated the speech team events because clearly, Susan Page is incapable of being a moderator. 

That is not how you moderate a debate…However, what I found myself incredibly infuriated by was Pence’s behavior. She was respectful towards him, but he kept cutting her off when it was her turn to speak every chance that he could get without being reprimanded by Susan Page. 

It is for this very reason, why my favorite clip from that debate was Kamala Harris looked Pence directly in his eyes and said, “I’m Speaking,” and she continued her response. She kept going even after Susan told her that her time was up. 

That moment resonated with so many women for a variety of reasons. Feel free to Google I’m speaking Kamala or look on Twitter. In fact, I’mspeaking was trending on Twitter for a very long time after the debate took place. Pence’s behavior is all too familiar for so many women, but especially black women. How Pence behaved in front of millions of people is what many women, especially black women, have to face on a daily basis in the corporate world. 

I’m well aware that not all white men act like Pence, but unfortunately, it’s been my experience that a good 80 to 90 percent of them do or condone that type of behavior. I just wish that I could clone the white guys that I know and are friends with so that they could knock some sense into these idiots… 

Hats off to whoever created this image-LOL

Now, I’m bringing special attention to black women, because there is a very real double standard that exists in the corporate world when it comes to Black women. My mom trained me well. My mom worked in accounting, so needless to say she definitely had to endure people attempting to see how much they could disrespect her and they quickly found out that that was not an option. She would and has always made sure that her voice was heard and she taught me to do the same. 

Seeing Kamala Harris put Pence in his place brought me back to all those mock sessions my mom used to have with me early on in my career. She warned me early on that the scene we saw with Kamala Harris would happen throughout my entire career but under no circumstances was I ever to allow some idiot to disrespect me in any way shape or form. I will never forget early on in my career how my mom and I would actually pretend to be in a heated discussion and she would pretend to be a jerk like Pence. Regardless of how many times she cut me off I was to continue talking despite her attempts to switch the topic or get me to stop speaking before she did. 

I know what my mom did may seem a bit extreme to some, but I’m fairly certain that at some point in time every Black mom has performed some variation of this exercise. I’m so blessed that my mom did this exercise with me because it was exercises like this and constant pep talks that made me the confident Black woman that I am today.  My mom did NOT want me to buy into the Angry Black Woman stereotype. In case you’re not familiar with this stereotype it characterizes black women as bad-tempered, hostile, and overly aggressive. 

Imagine what it’s like to not only be interrogated but then crucified for defending yourself…

Regardless of how respectful a Black woman is when you disagree with someone, especially a white man, you will without a doubt find yourself being labeled angry. Obviously, this isn’t true, you’re just trying to give your opinion. Yet, when you share your idea and it’s better than theirs, you best believe that not only did you find yourself in a white tears situation but you will without a doubt be labeled as the angry Black woman. 

See my mom taught me early on in life that the reason this stereotype exists is that those who wish to give you this label want to control you. Their goal is for you to willingly play the role of being a happy doormat. They take your disagreement with them as if you’re personally attacking them and questioning their authority. 

This label exists as an attempt to silence Black women from speaking up because they don’t want us to take control of our power. They hope that we don’t speak up for ourselves for fear of being accused of being just like the stereotype. Here’s the thing that is so incredibly infuriating. When a white woman shares her idea or shares why she disagrees with a teammate she is viewed as being passionate. A Black woman who does the EXACT same thing is viewed as angry. 

Look at Pence’s behavior. If a Black woman behaved the way that he did, she would be crucified. Despite Kamala keeping cool, calm, and collective, some, mainly white men, accused her of being disrespectful. Are you kidding me?! 

This is why  I’m so happy that Kamala held her ground. She did exactly what my mom taught me to do. Disrespect is not an option. Don’t let anyone or anything steal your crown. You can’t control people’s actions, but you best believe that you can control your reaction, and it better not be to buy into that ridiculous stereotype. 

Everyone has the right to express themselves and I should not feel ashamed to do the same. When white men are confident they’re praised but that same trait embodied by a Black woman is vilified and penalized. I’m embarrassed to admit this, but even though my mom and I did all that role-playing in order to prep me for the corporate world there were times early on in my career where I still allowed myself to give in to the fear of being viewed as this stereotype. 

I’m a super creative person. I’m always coming up with revenue-generating ideas. However, early on in my career, I went through a period of time where I decreased the number of ideas that I shared during meetings because I was just so tired of being cut off, hence, why I speak fast, otherwise, I’d never get a word in edgewise. Other reasons why I decreased sharing my ideas is because I got sick of being told we couldn’t implement my idea because that person didn’t think of it first or worse sharing my idea and then having it taken more seriously because a white guy said it.

I remember how angry I was at myself at not voicing my opinion, defending myself or my ideas. I couldn’t sleep and it was definitely taking a toll on my confidence. It took me a minute, but I definitely express myself now. If a coworker wants to join me during one of my client meetings, I make sure we’re aligned in who is leading the meeting because I’m not about to have someone talk over me with my own client. That ain’t happening. 

Do you want to be apart of the problem or the solution?
It’s clear what side he is on…Stop telling Black people what to do.

I remember how powerless I felt early on in my career and I will never allow myself to feel like that again. Honestly, those experiences that I had early on in my career is what made me realize that climbing the corporate ladder was a colossal waste of my time. I’m not willing to play this ridiculous sick game and risk my dignity and health. It’s more important for me to maintain my confidence so I’m willing to let the chips fall where they may. I know there’s more than one way to achieve success. 

God has shown me on more than one occasion that my voice is a gift.  Doing voice-overs is literally one of my side hustles. I’ve been fortunate to do company tutorials, commercials, and a bunch of other projects. So you gotta love the irony that using my voice to express myself is viewed as a threat.

It’s unfortunate that some may feel this way, but I will always continue to speak because I have the right to be heard. If you make the mistake and think you can prevent me from doing so, don’t be surprised when I remind you that, “I’m speaking,” and it’s in your best interest to listen so you can learn something new.

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Episode 124: How do you change your perspective about your job?

One of my friends was sharing some of the issues that she was experiencing on her job. I listened. I let her vent because she was where I used to be. She wanted to do a good job, but she was surrounded by idiots that just wouldn’t let her be great! I explained to her that it’s good to have passion for your work, but that passion is misplaced at most 9 to 5  jobs. 

You can’t expect a job to bring you the happiness you seek. You need to view that job as a means to an end. It funds your life, but it is not your life.  In other words, it helps fund your real purpose in life. Many times, we confuse our job with our purpose in life. Oftentimes, that simply is not the case. So, I helped guide my friend towards various avenues that could be her purpose and gave her advice about how she could go about accomplishing them outside of her 9 to 5 job. 

I am happy to report that by the end of our conversation, her entire demeanor changed. At the beginning of our conversation, she was upset and felt defeated. Towards the end, she was so happy and couldn’t stop thanking me! It was like a weight had been lifted from her shoulders.

Our conversation got me thinking, how easy it is for us to misplace our passion. For example, many people put their faith in corporations who most times are being led by idiots. They get to the top by nepotism, through their connections or their willingness to lie, cheat, and steal. Yet, these people still manage to acquire leadership roles even though they aren’t qualified to run a business. This is why businesses close or get acquired.  I have seen this time and time again,  in my own life as well as others. Placing our faith in a corporation will bring nothing but disappointment. Corporations don’t have our best interest at heart. Our job can literally be here today and gone tomorrow. This is why I will never work myself to death for a company. 

Now, let me be clear, I am in no way shape, or form advocating that you should be a slacker. What I’m saying is that you have to have a balance in life. I work hard and I play hard. Regardless of what I’m doing whether it be my 9 to 5 job, one of my many side hustles, playing sports, etc. I give 100%. I’m a really hard worker and competitive.  I hate slackers and procrastinators.

If you give me a project, I’ll have it done 3 days before it’s due. I’ve always been this way because this is how I was raised. I was raised to take pride and ownership in my work. My mom would always remind us, “You’re working for God, not people. Christ has your reward, not the idiots who think they are your boss.” (Col 3:23-24).

Early on in my career, I was incredibly naive and forgot the aforementioned advice my mom shared with me. I was expecting praise from my bosses and was left feeling confused when I didn’t get the promotion nor the raise I expected. Here’s the thing, I’ve had the unfortunate pleasure of working for managers that were a couple of fries short of a Happy Meal.

Instead of motivating you to succeed, they would do everything in their power to keep you down. They enjoyed placing additional mental or physical obstacles in your path. I learned the hard way to focus on pleasing Christ, not the idiot who thinks he/she is my boss. So much of our time is spent trying to please someone who doesn’t like themselves or who are as dumb as a box of rocks.  

I remember talking to my mom about this same issue I talked to my friend about. Again, being naive, I did not understand what my mom meant when she said that we set ourselves up for failure when we try to please someone who doesn’t like themselves. That person has seriously deep-rooted personal problems. When you work for someone like this, the only thing you can do is watch your back and do your job to the best of your ability. In this situation, the praises and raises will definitely have to come from Christ. I’m here to testify that they definitely did for me.

My conversation with my friend also got me thinking about how insecure and dumb people can be. I later learned that some of those managers that caused me so much unnecessary grief were jealous of me. Despite the fact that I was reporting to them and they were making way more money than me (quite frankly more than what they deserved), they were still jealous of me. It turned out that they feared me surpassing them.

Thanks to my mom’s guidance and constantly pushing me, this is exactly what I did. I surpassed all of those worthless managers. They tried everything in their power to hold me back. They had become complacent and wanted me to do the same. They took their frustration out on me when I refused to behave like them. Oftentimes, my achievements served as a reminder of that person’s shortcomings in life. 

Remember, you may be working in a less than ideal environment physically, but that shouldn’t be the case mentally. Take time out to take classes to learn new skills, listening to others who created their own opportunities. Shameless plug, check out my other podcast called Starengu which is where I provide career and business advice, and interview inspiring entrepreneurs/side hustlers that will without a doubt motivate you to do the same. 

Even if you’re not able to demonstrate them on your 9 to 5 job, take comfort in knowing that you’re working for Christ. Once you discover your talents, if you stay in faith and consistently work towards developing your talent you will eventually get the opportunity to shoot your shot.

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Episode 119: Working from home and mask pet peeves

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Episode 119: Random Thoughts: Working from home and my mask pet peeves

We’re approaching month 7 of living in this pandemic world. During this time, my company along with many other companies has made the decision to allow their employees to work from home until next year. Companies have noticed they are saving a lot of money and seeing an increase in productivity. Honestly, my company has not lost a beat with everyone working from home.

I find it interesting reading articles that have been talking about the issues working from home causes for employees. Working from home is nothing new to me. I’ve been working from home for years. In fact, I was working from home before the Coronavirus hit, so nothing changed in my routine. Out of all the companies that I’ve ever worked, hands down, this place, so far has been one of the BEST. Honestly, working from home has allowed me to live my best life! If you want to learn more why check Episode 116 It’s My Birthday.

In any case, I have to laugh when I come across articles talking about the “issues” working from home causes for employees. Surely, this was not written by a real employee. Most likely these articles are written by executives who want to get away from their family environment. Considering the fact that they are trying to get back to the office and away from their “family” proves that these individuals are living a checklist life. Their family or “loved ones” are just items they can check off their list so that they can appear that they are worth imitating. 

Also, when I come across articles that discuss the issues that working from home poses for employees, I often picture a lonely micromanager who lacks the self-discipline they need to work from home. Instead of dealing with their personal problems (i.e. being lonely, needing to be surrounded by other people to feed their ego, etc.), this lonely micromanager insists on projecting their personal problems onto everyone else (aka their subordinates). Again, I’ve been working from home for years.

Here’s the thing, the majority of the folks that I know, obviously myself included, absolutely love working from home. Where you work should NOT dictate how effective you are at your job. If you have a corporate job and you had to work late on a project, you would most likely do so from your house. Therefore, there is NO difference than when you work from home all day everyday. Those people that want people to come back into the office are dealing with personal issues that they want to project onto others (i.e. their subordinates or  co worker).

I know lonely micromanagers are the same fools that voted for offices to embrace an open layout. OK, sorry just had a bad flashback to the days when I had to sit in that ridiculous layout… Anyway moving forward, working from home is a win-win for everyone involved (the company and employees). Since everyone has been working from home, companies are seeing a thrive in Productivity. Again, working from home is a win -win for everyone; especially the employees. A home environment gives employees the Creativity outlet they need and last but not least, working from home enables employees to keep a Work/Life Balance.

For example, let’s take the increase in productivity. 


I cannot stress how much more work I get done at home than when I’m in the office. Working in the office is incredibly distracting. In time past, I was stuck working in an uncomfortable cubicle. In addition to this, it seemed that my cubicle was located in the busiest aisle known to mankind. You know that one aisle everyone takes to get back to their own cubicle, but before they make it back to their desk, they stop in front of my cubicle to have the world’s longest conversation with another co-worker.

Then there’s what I refer to as the drive-bys. When you’re trying to meet a deadline and then someone drops by to talk to you. You don’t want to be rude, so you stop what you’re doing and chat for a bit, and then try to give cues that you’re busy but the other person doesn’t seem to pick up on the cues. Finally, I just have to be the bad guy and end the conversation. The same thing happens when you stop by the water cooler. Again, working in the office is incredibly distracting.

I know this is going to sound cold, but I’m just not big on the chit chat conversations. Especially when it’s with people that I have nothing in common with. It’s nothing personal, but there’s only so many hours in a day. As I get older, I just don’t have the time and energy to engage in fake conversations. Utilizing my time for fake conversations, means that I have to work overtime. I am a person who properly utilizes her time during working hours. Mainly, because I am not into working overtime. Working overtime interferes with my “I work to live, not live to work” mentality!

Working from home allows us to avoid all the aforementioned scenarios. Unlike some people, I prefer to finish my work during working hours.  Plus, after hours, I have a ton of fulfilling projects that I like to work on like teaching English, dance, working on my fitness apparel stores, doing voiceovers, etc. These projects are my passion. They are fun for me and the extra cash I make is icing on the cake.

If you think about it, who in their right mind does not want to work from the comfort of their own home? I will take the home office that I have built for myself ANY DAY over an office cubicle. Besides, why wouldn’t you want to work from home? Home is where the heart is right? It’s been interesting reading studies and articles about how men are more willing to go back to the office than women. To me, it seems like many of these men are going back into the office as a means to escape from their home life.

I have to work really hard NOT to roll my eyes when I hear people complain about working from home and being anxious to get back into the office. These fools would rather sit in an office all day wearing a mask (which by the way I will NEVER do) when they could be working from the comfort of their own home.  That makes no sense! I know the essential workers trapped in retail jobs would love to be able to work from home. These essential workers (especially those who work in retail) would love to switch places with these fools who insist on coming into the office.

What I have noticed is – many of the folks complaining about working from home have never truly worked in jobs that are considered essential.  I worked retail in high school. It was one of the main reasons why I knew I needed to get that piece of paper (aka degree). The way my personality is set up, I know I could not deal with the Karens, Beckys, Chads and Tanners of the world and maintain my sanity.

Many of you who know me, know I don’t have a poker face. Therefore, you can immediately see the irritation on my face when I have to listen to someone say, they cannot wait to get back into the office. I automatically think about how selfish or lonely this person is. They are leaving their spouse at home to take care of the kids all by herself (I said herself because most of the time it is women that end up with the kids) and/or they are just lonely people that are forcing their subordinates or co-worker to be their friend,  and/or they need to be surrounded by other people to feed their ego during working hours.

Another thing, the folks that “enjoy” going to the office oftentimes have their own office. They don’t have to sit in cubicles or worst the ridiculous open layout format. They can retreat back to their office while the rest of us are stuck trying to book a conference room so we can make a simple client call because we’re sitting on top of each other…

Again, working from home is a win-win for everyone involved. It highlights the folks that are producing results as well as demonstrates to employers those who are barely doing enough to get a paycheck. Working in the office, folks who “fake” working have always been able to get away with their behavior.  Mainly because they’re good at talking and running around playing the office politics games. At home, communication must be scheduled, concise, and direct. Outside the office environment, that “fake” stuff does not work.

Working from home exposes these people for the fakes they are and employees like me finally get a chance to shine. Working from home does not diminish our productivity. On the contrary, it enhances our productivity by taking away the stress and giving employees back their time. This is valuable time that can be spent developing our creativity.


The time and energy we waste getting ready for work, fighting traffic to get to work, and once we get there, we need time to decompress from the hassle it took to get to work. This daily 2 or 3 hours a day can be better spent on developing our God given creativity.

Working from home takes away the stress and mismanagement of time.  The mere fact that I don’t have to deal with all the above put me in a win- win situation. My home office is super calming. Since I’m more relaxed I can think of more ideas on how to create more revenue opportunities to increase my 9 to 5 business as well as my own.

 I hope this doesn’t come across as arrogant, but I’m one of the most creative people you will ever meet. When someone tells me their talent, I can come up with all sorts of ideas on how they can make money with their God-given talent. I am just wired this way as to why my mom strongly suggested that I pursue a career in marketing. Needless to say, she was correct in helping me choose my path in life. I try to do the same so others can experience some of what I have.

From a corporate perspective, it’s unfortunate that many employers may not get to reap the benefits of their employees’ creativity. Many companies fail to realize that a lot of those ideas that employees wish to share are being trapped by those that they report into…their managers. I’ve had managers either never share my idea or flat out attempt to steal my idea. Emphasis on attempt because I would never allow someone to take credit for my idea. I’ve also had coworkers attempt to do the same thing without being reprimanded by their manager. 

If you call me impromptu, please do not be offended if I don’t use my video.
When I say, “I’m not camera ready,” that means I’m looking like the photo on the left. 😉

I’ll never forget the first time this happened to me. I created a brand new report but I needed one piece of data that I needed to include in the report. I was going on vacation somewhere I wouldn’t have Wifi, so I asked my coworker if they could include the data and then send it to my client. My coworker decided to put his name on the report and act like he created the report and took the compliments on my behalf. I found out only because the department head complimented this person. Now I could care less about the accolades. The thing that upset me was this dude had the audacity to steal my idea like  I was someone he could walk all over. 

So I called a meeting with my manager and this thief and expressed my frustration.  Since this thief was on the other side of the situation (receiving compliments for my work), he didn’t understand why I was so upset. Of course, my worthless manager just wanted me to get past this without “reprimanding the thief”. Mainly because the thief performed one of the best White tears performances I had ever seen (guys this was before the Amy Cooper and the Black bird watcher video). So anyway, when we left the conference room the thief was visibly upset. Everyone was looking at me like I was the bad person despite the fact that this person had flat out stolen my idea and lied.. 

Honestly, it was moments like this and others that followed that caused me to seriously question how much of my energy I wanted to spend climbing that corporate ladder only to find out later that my ladder was leaning against the wrong wall.  My hope during this pandemic is that companies that aren’t thriving in the innovation area need to take inventory of their company’s leadership staff. Due to bottlenecks, companies could be missing out on great ideas that can generate more revenue.

As I stated before working from home is a win-win for everyone. The company and I both get to save money. The company saves money because they no longer have to pay for travel and expenses. They can save even more money because they don’t have to pay for company infrastructure. If it is a reputable company, then hopefully those savings will be redistributed to the employees. Even if the aforementioned never happens, an employee can still save money because he/she no longer has to pay for transportation costs and/or work clothes.

In addition to all these benefits, working from home gives employees a great work/like balance.

Work/Life Balance

Just sitting back thinking about my work/life balance, can be attributed to me working from home. The two hours I used to spend getting dressed and commuting to work can now be spent on exercising. I love exercising in the morning. The only way I can exercise during this time is because I don’t have to waste my time and energy going into the office.

There’s no way in the world I could exercise in the morning if I had to go into the office. The time it would take for me to get dressed, do my makeup and hair, I’ve got natural hair so that will take forever to style (scroll down to see the video I created to learn more about natural hair) I would never get out the door. Of course, I’ve got to leave time to commute. I’m exhausted just thinking about that schedule…

There are so many positive aspects to employees working from home. As I have stated before, this pandemic has not been all bad.  Working from home is definitely an approach that more companies will continue to embrace. 

My Mask Wearing Pet Peeves

On the other hand, I will never embrace how people treat wearing masks like Linus wore his blanket. Some people’s approach to wearing a mask demonstrates that common sense is not all that common for everyone.

I’m not going to get into all of my thoughts regarding the Coronavirus and the mask. In case you’re interested checkout Episode 108.  Anyway, I feel this whole mask-wearing thing is getting out of hand. It’s driving me insane to see these advertisements that state that wearing masks is saving lives. It’s not true! You can still get sick if you’re wearing a cloth mask.Unless you’re wearing the N95 mask you’re not saving anything.

I have seen so many instances of cross contamination.  I’ve seen people wearing masks on their chin, underneath their nose, on their ears or wrist then they touch different surfaces only to put back on their Linus blanket (aka their mask). The thing that I’ve seen that’s puzzled me the most is when I see kids at the playground with a mask on, playing on equipment that is not disinfected but then touching all over their face to keep their mask on. It doesn’t make sense. You might as well take the mask off… You will have a better chance of not getting contaminated.

Here’s the thing, if you want me to wear a mask in the store; that’s cool! But I will never wear one outside when social distancing is clearly possible. There is no reason in the world that you shouldn’t be able to social distance outside. I value my health and safety so trust me, I was a social distancing champ before the pandemic.

The bottom line, it is NOT good to wear a mask all day and especially if you’re exercising. You’re literally breathing in your own carbon dioxide and trapping bacteria in your mask. You’re increasing your chances of getting dizzy and fainting. Wearing a mask while exercising is one of the main reasons why I and many other fitness instructors opted not to return back to the studio to teach our classes. We KNOW how dangerous it is to teach a fitness class with a mask on.

Now don’t get me wrong, I know there are those who are teaching under duress under this condition, because they really need the money. I am not talking about them. I am simply pointing out that mask wearing in the great outdoors is an overkill.  I feel like people are just blindly following rules without questioning their validity. 

Maintaining a social distancing environment is all we need. I love to run and bike by myself. Therefore, maintaining a social distance is not a problem for people like me. I have been doing this way before the pandemic came into existence and I have been in very good health before and during this pandemic.

My whole pet peeve is those people who are buying into this whole “I’m saving lives when they wear a mask.” You’re really not saving lives! Seeing people wearing a mask when they are literally sitting on their own porch away from people is silly. This is equally disturbing when I see people wearing masks to mow the grass without a single soul near them. If the media believes in fair play, they should report on the folks that are getting sick from wearing their mask.

The mask-wearing that thoroughly confuses me is when I see people wearing a mask alone in their car or the majority of the family members are wearing a mask and one of the members is not. This is silly! You all are going home together. If the one without the mask gets sick, he/she is going to spread it to everyone in the family. So, you might as well stand in solidarity as a family by everyone wearing the mask or everyone not wearing the mask. Another rule that drives me insane is with the restaurant situation. You walk into a restaurant with the mask on only to take it off when you get to your table. It doesn’t make any sense! 🤷‍♀️

There’s just way too much fear going around. For example, when I’m running or biking on the trail I make a point to leaving plenty of room when I go past people. Yet, I see fearful people freaking out trying to hurry up and put a mask after I have already approached them. I’m literally long gone before they accomplish putting on their mask.

My point is, if you’re going to wear a mask outside, make it make sense people. I can’t wait to share an interview with one of English students who works in the science field in Germany. The way they are doing things over there makes WAY more sense to me than the mess we have going on over here in America.

I truly do believe that the Coronavirus is going to end up being like the flu. As a result, the thing that makes the most sense is to teach people how to focus on building up their immune system. Pharmaceutical companies focus on treating symptoms because it’s more lucrative than creating a cure. Instead of giving people information about building up their immune system, the media has been trying to brainwash people into getting a vaccination. Vaccination isn’t going to be effective because this virus strain mutates way too fast. By the way, for those folks who think that they need to get a flu shot vaccination, the CDC doesn’t heavily advertise the fact that the effectiveness rate is only 40% so there’s no point in getting one of these either.

The bottom line is everyone needs to do their research and make sure that they don’t forget common sense in their quest to stay healthy. There’s just way too much fear going around. I understand people are getting sick, but we still have to find a balance of maintaining some semblance of sanity and being sociable.

Articles/videos referenced in this Natural Hair video:

Black Women with Natural Hairstyles Are Perceived as Less Professional: Black people can’t catch a break…LOL This is not news to any of us, but this is yet another type of discrimination faced on a daily basis.

Hair Relaxer Use and Risk of Uterine Leiomyomata in African-American Women: In an attempt to reduce our curl pattern, many of us (myself included) used to use relaxers. Of course, no one told us about the dangerous chemicals that these relaxers contained nor the fact that they cause an increase in fibroids or cause cancer. Hence, why many Black women STOPPED getting relaxers. No one wants to die over their hair.

The Crown Act: A law that is supposed to address the issue of hair discrimination in the workplace. By the way, super insane this is even needed because if you have an issue with our hair… that’s a personal problem. Take it up with God…🤷‍♀️

Sharmen J Beauty: I LOVE her headwraps. They are super stylish and comfortable. I would buy the entire store if I could. They make fantastic gifts!

Grace Eleyae (Slap): There’s no way I would ever go to bed and/or outside during the wintertime without wearing these satin-lined slaps (aka beanies) that she makes. They have a satin lining on the inside that help keep your hair moisturized. Another fantastic gift for your favorite curlfriend.

YouGoNatural: Beautiful African satin lined headwraps.

Unan Import (site coming soon): If you’re in Chicago, stop by this store. He sells headscarves along with beautiful African art, skincare products (African Black soap, Mango butter, Shea butter), earrings, etc.

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