Episode 249 Do You Know How To Stay Calm Under Pressure?

I’m a recovering perfectionist. I hate to make mistakes. Therefore, when I’m faced with making decisions, I spend an agonizing amount of time weighing my pros and cons to ensure I’m making the right decision. However, slowly but surely, I realized that as a Christian, if you pray first, there’s no such thing as a mistake. Yes, some decisions are better than others. Yet, if my goal is to please God, He said that He would cause all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose (Rom 8:28).


In my life, I’ve had to make some tough decisions. Even though I knew I was right, I was concerned about the consequences of my actions. One of the most challenging aspects in making a decision is that even though you may be right, your willingness to stand up for that which is right may cause you to suffer what appear to be negative consequences. 


I recently found myself in a situation where I was willing to expose someone’s lies. This person threatened to cause me financial harm if I did not respond to their threat to keep quiet about the situation. This person thought that since they were rich and had earthly connections, they could scare me into not telling the truth. Did you catch the part when I said earthly connections? 


Christians are well aware that we’re in a spiritual warfare. We know that Satan’s priority is to steal, kill, and destroy us. As Christians, we can take comfort in knowing a relationship with God is the only connection we will ever need to guide and protect us. Christians know that the only way to defend ourselves against Satan’s tactics is to realize that we must win our battles in the spiritual realm first (aka win the battle of our mind) before we can see them manifest in the physical realm (2 Cor 10:5). God said that “…No weapon formed against you shall prosper, And every tongue which rises against you in judgment, You shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, And their righteousness is from Me.” (Is 54:17)


When you’re in a battle, the enemy may get some punches, but that doesn’t mean they won the battle. It’s up to you to get up and fight back. We fight back by wearing our spiritual armor and using God’s word to defend ourselves from embracing Satan’s lies. Regardless of how big the Goliath you may face, it will fall if you stay in faith. Yet, so many of us, myself included, have this knowledge, yet, allow fear to get in the way. We completely forget the power we possess because we are a child of God. 


There’s no need for us to succumb to sinful tactics such as lying, cheating, or whatever other lies Satan tries to convince us to do. Fear makes us so hysterical that we can’t hear God’s voice. God can’t communicate with us when we’re hysterical. He speaks to us in a still, small voice. I know from experience that regardless of what type of pressure you may be experiencing, the key to hearing God’s voice is to stay calm. This is the only way God will give us the answers to solve our problems.


This is easier said than done, but it can be done. I know it’s possible to stay calm under pressure because I’ve seen my mother repeatedly master this concept. You’ll learn more about her in my book, but just so you know, I’m not just saying this because she’s my mother. Numerous people who have had the pleasure of meeting my mother feel the same way. Kindness radiates from her. My mother is a brilliant, business-savvy godly woman who possesses a unique gift of discernment and has a great sense of humor. She is incredibly kind and willing to help those in need but trust and believe if the occasion arises, you will catch her saved hands physically or spiritually. 


Ever since I was a child, my goal in life has been and will forever be to imitate my mom. She’s the Proverbs 31 woman in action. Her ability to handle stressful situations always left me in awe. Nothing fazes her. She’s always been cool, calm and collected. So when I was presented with my stressful situation, I immediately thought about the steps I’ve seen my mother take when she was confronted with stressful situations, she takes a moment of solitude, prays, exercises, and goes to sleep.


When you’re presented with news or in a situation that’s more than likely going to cause you stress, the last thing you need is to be around people. You need time to be alone. When you’re around people, whether intentional or unintentional, they typically add to your stress–especially if they are not versed in God’s word. They may offer unsolicited advice that will further set you back. Being alone will place you in a position to hear God’s word. When you need answers, the last thing you want is other voices competing with your ability to hear from God (Luke 5:16). This is why Luke 5:16 mentions that Jesus often withdrew into the wilderness and prayed.


I can not stress enough the importance of prayer. If you want the answers to your prayers, then you have to go to the Source and not rely on the resource. God has the answers we seek. Yet, so many of us, myself included, forget that our resources–people, money, prestige, the list goes on, don’t hold the power we think they have unless they align with God’s plans. Again, God is the Source. He knows which resources we need and will provide us with the knowledge to select the correct one if we seek His guidance. The only way to gain His wisdom is by having faith and prayer. In James 5:15-17 God said that the fervent prayer of a righteous person availeth much. We must be willing to let go of our pride and ask for God’s advice. As He said in Matt 7: 7-8, God will not withhold wisdom from us if we intentionally seek Him.


Now, if you’re like me, you would like to receive an answer to your problem immediately after you pray. However, God’s thoughts and sense of time are not like ours. Plus, like Daniel, there are most likely demons in the way that our angels need to fight against on our behalf in the spiritual realm that is preventing us from getting the answer we so desperately seek in the physical realm (Daniel 10: 13-21). Rest assured, you will get the answer, but in some situations, it may take some time. It’s on us not to lose heart while we wait. Therefore, we need to ensure that we keep it together while we’re waiting for His response. 


The main reason there are delays when we’re waiting for God’s response is because God’s clearing away the obstacles in our path and determining the resources He wants us to use to resolve our problems. Once He has finalized the answer to your prayer, you need to be able to hear and receive the message.  After you pray, if you don’t have your answer, you may still feel anxious. To relieve that stress, it’s best to go exercise. I know this may seem like a very strange suggestion, but exercise is one of the best ways to relieve stress. It will help you to get rid of negative pent-up energy.  Again, God can’t talk to you when you’re hysterical. Exercise releases endorphins, which help you relax and reduce the negative impacts that stress causes to the body. You might as well keep your temple in shape!


After you’re done exercising, you’ll be tired, so take advantage of this time and sleep. Jesus was able to sleep through a storm, indicating that we also possess the ability to do so. Life throws so many storms our way, but we should receive comfort in knowing that if we trust God, He will give us the peace that surpasses understanding so we can rest until He sees fit to give us the answer to our problem.


There’s no sense in wasting your time worrying. It won’t accomplish anything but cause you to upset God. God specifically told us not to worry. If we choose to violate his instructions, then we’re in sin. Again, I get how easy it is to fall into the sin of worry, which is why I try to go above and beyond to stay on God’s good side.


I can personally attest that this routine I’ve watched my mom execute in her spiritual battles works. If you are curious about how my stressful situation turned out, I called this person’s bluff, I told the truth.  That person who tried to threaten me ended up caving in, and now I’m back to living my life like it’s golden. God’s shown me on more than one occasion that He can and will show up and show out if I stay in faith and keep calm and carry on.

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