Have you ever experienced retaliation from others? Maybe it’s a friend, a teammate, or even a stranger. We will find ourselves in this situation at some point in our lives. So let’s tackle one of the most common reasons why people retaliate, and then how we should react to retaliation. There are a variety of reasons why people retaliate.

Speaking from personal experience, the most common reason is narcissism. When someone has wronged you and you call them on it, a narcissist will automatically go into retaliation mode. This is because they’ve allowed their insecurity to get so out of control that they truly believe they cannot make a mistake.

When you expose their incorrect behavior, they take it personally. They refuse to take responsibility for their behavior. In their mind, the world revolves around that rules apply to other people, not to them. Your unwillingness to cater to their every whim and tantrum serves as a reminder that they can’t manipulate everyone.

Therefore, they lack, they view your lack of compliance to get in line and obey them as a threat. They have to correct. Unfortunately, narcissists are everywhere, especially in the corporate world. So it’s important to know how to wisely handle these situations. First, you have to stay calm. This is the last thing you want to do because you’re angry. I get it, but it’s incredibly important. The Bible says in Matthew 10, 16, I’m sending you out like sheep among wolves, therefore be shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves. God already warned us that there are evil people in this world.

And as Christians, we know that if we react impulsively, we can further escalate the situation. Second, if you don’t want to be viewed as a doormat, you must clearly communicate your boundaries. It’s okay to stand up for yourself. So many of us have been conditioned to believe that we have to live life on defense.

And I refuse to live this way so much that I even created a t shirt for my t shirt shop that says, live on offense. Life is too short. I will not live my life walking on eggshells, making my enemies happy at the expense of my integrity and happiness. is a deal breaker. I won’t do it. Last but not least, do yourself a favor and remove or limit your time around those who exhibit this type of behavior.

Our lives are like a vapor. So get support from your loved ones and engage in activities that make you happy. Don’t let anyone or anything steal your joy. Live your life like a bird, not a tree. Trees are literally allocated to one location. The only way that they could be moved if, is if there’s a storm, someone chops it down, or there’s some type of erosion.

Life is happening to the tree. Trees are forever relegated to a life of defense. On the other hand, birds change their scenery at any given point in time. That’s how we should live our lives. We can change our scenery. We have the ability to move. We can go somewhere different. So many of us don’t take advantage of our ability to fly.

We’re afraid of how others may react when we attempt to fly away from their behavior. By no means am I saying that I’ve arrived. But now I just pray, God, I pray that your will be done. I pray that you will give me the wisdom and strength to endure whatever comes my way. I know that you said that vengeance is yours.

So I will believe your word and let you fight this battle on my behalf. Whenever people have retaliated against me, I’ve noticed that God often will leverage that person’s attempt to hold me back. as a way to propel me forward. However, God wants to see if you’re going to take the risk first and stand up for yourself.

He’s not going to waste his blessing on folks who live their lives like trees, because that’s like casting your pearls before swine. You have to demonstrate your willingness to fight for what is right. So you can be in a position to maintain and amplify the blessings God wants to give you. Knowing how to approach retaliation with the right mindset will enable you to maintain your peace of mind so you can soar.

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